Showing posts with label relationships. Show all posts
Showing posts with label relationships. Show all posts

Sunday, March 9, 2008

Learning From Dr. William Glasser

Last Wednesday I had the opportunity to attend a presentation by 83 year old Dr. William Glasser and his wife at BYU. When introducing him Dr. Tim Smith mentioned that while education fads come and go, Dr. Glasser's education principles live on.

The reason that Dr. Glasser's theories are still alive and well today is because they are built upon sound principles such as:

  • Relationships must be built upon trust and respect.

  • Learning must be based upon competency and quality work, not grades--The lowest grade one can receive is a B.

  • School must be a joyful and welcoming (and as William Purkey would say, "inviting") place because of a supportive, caring environment and healthy relationships.

  • All the school's stakeholders (students, parents, principal, teachers, staff, etc.) must rely on the choice theory principles of survival, love/belonging, freedom/power, and fun rather than the seven deadly external control habits: criticizing, blaming, complaining, nagging, threatening, punishing, and bribing.

  • The message students need to receive from teachers must be: "My job is to teach you to learn, my job is not to find out what you don't know and punish you for not knowing it."

  • Teach what is useful which is more than acquiring knowledge and memorizing facts

  • Don't teach with threats or punishment.

  • By changing one's acting and thinking rather than a focus on what one is feeling will help one feel better.

  • Make all tests open book and open help from classmates and the teacher.

What is wonderful about these principles is that they work! The lives of delinquent girls at the Ventura School in California and hard core students in a Cincinnati school were turned around when these principles were used with them.

Dr. Glasser recommends that everyone who works in a school should read the research called Protecting Adolescents from Harm (Resnick et. al, 1997). Glasser says that what this important extensive research points out conclusively is that only two groups of people can prevent adolescents from harming themselves and others: parents and teachers.

Also, Dr. Glasser has a book called Every Student Can Succeed that can be ordered from his website http://www.wglasser.com/ At this time it is $14 inclusive of postage and handling.


Thursday, November 8, 2007

Make new friends, but keep the old

When I was a young girl in Girl Scouts we learned a song the lyrics for which are: Make new friends, but keep the old. One is silver and the other is gold. I was reminded of the wisdom of these words yesterday as I had lunch with two people I met over 30 years ago as we served as LDS (Latter-Day Saint) missionaries in Ecuador. We met at my request because of a dilemma I'm facing, and I felt they would likely have some valuable insights--which they did, including connecting me to others.

For every dilemma we face or need we have in regards to our cause, according to the theory of "Six Degrees of Separation," the answer is only 6 people away. US psychologist, Stanley Milgram, created this theory in 1967 which stated that all persons on earth are only separated by 6 people. Even if one chooses to reject the theory as an academic urban legend, there are some worthwhile ideas within the theory to consider.

Harvey Mackay has written a book called Dig Your Well Before You're Thirsty. The message of this book is that we should be building and strengthening relationships--with new and old--before we have the need. Then when we have a need or a concern for our cause, we can contact all these relationships within this network we have built. They might not have the answer, but they can start connecting us with people who do. Thus, the "Six Degrees of Separation" theory goes to work.

The actor Kevin Bacon has built upon this idea and believes that we are all connected to accomplish something good. He even has a website, www.SixDegrees.org, that I invite you to visit to see how to take advantage of this concept to further your particular work or cause.

When we ponder the theory of "Six Degrees of Separation," it is a reminder that this truly is a small world that connects us all, not a big intimidating world.