Wisdom Couched In Silliness and Humor

It seems like I'm watching a lot of movies these days (I am on vacation!) but yesterday my husband gave me a Mother's Day gift--He selected a movie specifically for me for us to watch--Evan Almighty. Even though it was about as silly as you can get I love Morgan Freeman who played God. Plus, there were some words of wisdom couched in between all the humor and silliness.

In one scene "God" gives Evan Baxter's wife the following counsel: "Let me ask you something. If someone prays for patience, you think God gives them patience? Or does he give them the opportunity to be patient? If he prayed for courage does God give him courage or does he give him opportunities to be courageous?"

In another scene "God" asks Evan Baxter: "How do we change the world?" and Evan Baxter answers correctly when he says, "One single act of random kindness at a time" Learning this insight was especially pertinent and significant to Evan Baxter, a Buffalo newscaster who had been elected to Congress on the slogan, "Change the World." The first night he was in Washington Baxter prayed asking God to help him change the world. God heard Baxter and answered his prayer but in an unconventional way that Baxter hadn't expected. Baxter had had an optimistic zeal to change the world through the political system. Yet, the political system has its limitations because often personal agendas or even corruption gets in the way. God knew and Baxter learned that relying only on politicians to solve the world's problems wouldn't be sufficient.

Baxter comes to realize that God has called him to do a work. He exercises faith in that calling even when he others mock him and accuse of him of being crazy. Even for a short time his family leaves him not understanding what is going on with him.

Baxter's faith is also to be admired when taking into account that God hadn't given him a detailed blueprint on how to accomplish what he is being asked to do. At best he was only armed with a sketchy understanding of God's plans. Yet, God reassures Baxter telling him, "Whatever I do, I do because I love you." That love and Baxter's faith are tested when even after the ark is built and the community is ready to dismantle it, no flood comes. Baxter looks up to the sunny sky and expresses his frustration saying to God, "Is it too much to ask for a LITTLE PRECIPITATION?" God answers the prayer with a little precipitation but still no flood.

What Baxter didn't know, but God did, was the flood wasn't going to come because of rain but because of a break in a dam. Baxter learned that God has his own reasons for asking us to do certain things. Therefore, we only need to follow his directions and then leave the outcomes and timing up to him.

Not only did Baxter learn that God had chosen him for a work, but as he told a reporter, "He chose all of us." In other words, each of us has a work to do that we can fulfill if we'll pray to be a change agent, listen to the answer that may be unconventional, and continue to follow the instructions in the answer even if we can't see any results and/or others are mocking or chiding us.

Lessons to Learn from "Wet Pants"

As I read the story "Wet Pants" which was sent to me this morning by my good friend, Richard Gordon, not only was I touched by the depth of care shown by a 3rd grade girl, but I saw a new application. There are lessons Susie teaches through her example that anyone wanting to make a difference for diverse learners will want to learn and apply.

WET PANTS

Come with me to a third grade classroom..... There is a nine-year-old kid sitting at his desk and all of a sudden, there is a puddle between his feet and the front of his pants are wet.

He thinks his heart is going to stop because he cannot possibly imagine how this has happened. It's never happened before, and he knows that when the boys find out he will never hear the end of it. When the girls find out, they'll never speak to him again as long as he lives.

The boy believes his heart is going to stop; he puts his head down and prays this prayer, 'Dear God, this is an emergency! I need help now! Five minutes from now I'm dead meat.'

He looks up from his prayer and here comes the teacher with a look in her eyes that says he has been discovered As the teacher is walking toward him, a classmate named Susie is carrying a goldfish bowl that is filled with water. Susie trips in front of the teacher and inexplicably dumps the bowl of water in the boy's lap. The boy pretends to be angry, but all the while is saying to himself, 'Thank you, Lord! Thank you, Lord!'

Now all of a sudden, instead of being the object of ridicule, the boy is the object of sympathy. The teacher rushes him downstairs and gives him gym shorts to put on while his pants dry out. All the other children are on their hands and knees cleaning up around his desk. The sympathy is wonderful.

But as life would have it, the ridicule that should have been his has been transferred to someone else - Susie. She tries to help, but they tell her to get out. You've done enough, you klutz!'

Finally, at the end of the day, as they are waiting for the bus, the boy walks over to Susie and whispers, 'You did that on purpose, didn't you?' Susie whispers back, 'I wet my pants once too.'

May God help us see the opportunities that are always around us to do good..

Lessons Susie teaches:

• She was observant


• She was empathetic


• She didn't blame anyone, not even the little boy, for the situation


• She didn't organize a committee to help


• She thought in terms of how she personally could help...and it didn't matter that he was a boy and that she was a girl or that she was only 9 years old


• She didn't wait for the authority person, the person with the "power," --the teacher--to address the issue


• She didn't ask to be recognized for the good she had done. In fact.....


• She allowed herself to be ridiculed and misunderstood--without whining or murmuring

The boy taught some lessons, too:

• Pray for help


• Recognize the help when it comes


• Give thanks for the help both to the Lord and to the person who helped

Most of the time Heavenly Father answers prayers through someone else. A spiritual leader will strive to live in such a way that he or she can be the answer to the unspoken, as well as the spoken, prayers of his/her diverse learners and their families.

Spiritual Leadership Requires Righteous Motives

You probably know, as I do, that there is nothing quite like the sting that comes when one's motives are questioned or challenged.....especially when one has taken the risk to step out from the crowd to advocate for a cause greater than oneself The sting is even more painful and harder to endure when the criticism comes from those who are supposedly on the same side of the battle.



Yet, in spite of the painfulness of the sting, it provides an opportunity for us to ponder on our motives. Whenever our actions are motivated by a desire for a response from others whether that response be accolades, money, recognition, prestige, approval, etc., it would behoove us to do some changing.



It is not only the strength of a motive that is important but also the rightness or wrongness of it as L. Tom Perry suggests in his book, Righteous Influence. He goes onto say that power and influence are to be exercised only when a leader has in mind righteous purposes--pureness of heart. In other words, when and how a leader steps in has as much to do with the leader's readiness to do so as with the needs of the person (s) he/she desires to influence.



When one has a desire to influence another---to know when and how to step in (or back off!)--the first thing one should do is drop to his knees for guidance. From a personal conversation, L. Tom Perry quotes Jerry Harvey, a well-respected organizational scientist, "You don't really know anything about a leader until you know something about his prayer life."



Even if are motives are pure and even if we have prayed for guidance, there is still no guarantee that our motives won't be questioned or challenged. Others still have their free agency in how they choose to respond to our righteous motives. They may still falsely accuse us as Nephi was accused by his brothers, Laman and Lemuel, in the Book of Mormon of wanting to rule over them--in spite of all that he had done in their behalf.



If we are wrongly accused after we have determined that our motives are pure, we have the option of choosing to retreat or to go forward in spite of it. The cause depends on us choosing the latter... remembering the words of Albert Einstein,

"Great spirits have always encountered violent opposition from mediocre minds"